The Cost of Doing It Alone (Photo by Brett Jordan on Unsplash) The Exhaustion of Unshared Burdens There's a particular kind of tired that comes from carrying everything yourself. Not the exhaustion of hard work, but the exhaustion of never putting anything down, never letting anyone else take a corner of the load. For a lot of men, this becomes such a normal way of operating that it barely registers as a choice anymore. It just feels like how you're supposed to handle things.